My youngest son has a unique outlook on life. No matter how many grey clouds come into the day, he always finds the silver lining. I call him “Mr. Brightside.” Spill milk all over the dinner table? “But at least I didn’t get any on myself.” Legos all over the bedroom floor? “But at least I can find all the pieces now.” Puking my guts out with the flu? “But at least you can stay home and watch TV, Mommy.”
To be honest, sometimes it can be a little frustrating, especially since I am the one cleaning up the spilled milk. I have always been a realistic pessimist. I don’t see the glass as half empty, I see it as half empty and why the heck didn’t I remember to go to the store? Pollyanna attitudes never sit too well with me because it’s hard to believe that anything can go as well as they think they will. It seems like I am always waiting for the other shoe to drop.
I never had much value for the Pollyannas of the world until I met my husband. I should really call my son “Mr. Brightside, Jr.” because my husband is just like my son. He always sees the good in things and people. He always has a positive outlook. If I didn’t love him so much, it would probably drive me crazy.
As it is, I have grown to appreciate my husband’s take on life. It helps to make our family work as well as it does.
I always say that I plan for the worst and he expects the best so, between the two of us, we have it all covered. Sudden cold snap at Disney World? Don’t worry, Mom has jackets, hats, gloves, and blankets. And Dad points out that now we can have some yummy hot chocolate. If we were both of the same mindset, it wouldn’t work nearly as well. All the cold weather gear can’t make a trip better if you have a bad attitude and all the hot chocolate in the world doesn’t help if you can’t feel your ears or hands. I can’t count the times my husband has “talked me off the ledge” by telling me that everything would work out and made me feel me much better about whatever situation had me stressed out.
We need more “Mr. Brightsides” in our lives, especially if you are a pessimist like me.
They help to smooth out the rough edges and remind us of the good things in the world. Whenever something stressful or negative happens in my life, I have started trying to ask myself what would my “Mr. Brightside” do? How would he turn this negative into a positive? Suddenly, I start to see the possibilities and solutions I never saw before because I was so focused on the negative points.